Just wanted to share these videos with you to hopefully help confirm and open some of your eyes to the truth.
J-Bo
Friday, July 5, 2013
When Did You Choose To Be Straight?
So I have a great question for all of you as I write some songs:
When Did You Choose To Be Straight?
I'm serious...answer the question. For all of you out there who are LGBTQ I guess you can answer that question too. When did you choose to be like you are?
Or is it more when did you choose to fully accept?
These are the questions we need to start asking each other.
J-BO
When Did You Choose To Be Straight?
I'm serious...answer the question. For all of you out there who are LGBTQ I guess you can answer that question too. When did you choose to be like you are?
Or is it more when did you choose to fully accept?
These are the questions we need to start asking each other.
J-BO
Feeling Revitalized
I don't know the last time I just woke up so early and felt ready for the world.
I don't know what happened yesterday. Literally all I did was play mediator, soothsayer, friend, cousin, and mentor.
I wanted so bad to get away from them for awhile, but I couldn't. Took them to the pool and it damn nearly killed me. LOL.
It was so hot and I ended up not going into the pool cause I was making business calls and dealing with business stuff. I really wanted to have someone else there to watch them while I go inside and do work in the shade, but I ended up in sun baking. -_-
But I did it for them and let them stay out there for an hour.
Came back home and my sister and her kids were here and some other fam and the food wasn't totally ready. We finally started eating, and I became more and more off duty.
I made all the kids go to bed at 10, but then gave the 3 oldest a reprieve to stay awake with the older the people while I went to bed, and had the 3 youngest with me. Of course they weren't happy, but they had a long day.
2/3 fell asleep immediately. 1 of them was holding out cause he said he wasn't tired, but he too fell after awhile.
So my brother is going to be watching them today. They better watch out...he is way more quick to anger and lashing out than I am. He is very much more harsh. But compared to my middle brother he is a piece of cake.
My middle brother woulda done beat the shit outta all of them just to teach them a quick a lesson on who's the boss. Smh.
So now I am awake and feel like taking on the world, and everyone else in my house is knocked out. Time for some tea cause I need my voice, and shower, and then I am out.
Enjoy your day people.
J-Bo
I don't know what happened yesterday. Literally all I did was play mediator, soothsayer, friend, cousin, and mentor.
I wanted so bad to get away from them for awhile, but I couldn't. Took them to the pool and it damn nearly killed me. LOL.
It was so hot and I ended up not going into the pool cause I was making business calls and dealing with business stuff. I really wanted to have someone else there to watch them while I go inside and do work in the shade, but I ended up in sun baking. -_-
But I did it for them and let them stay out there for an hour.
Came back home and my sister and her kids were here and some other fam and the food wasn't totally ready. We finally started eating, and I became more and more off duty.
I made all the kids go to bed at 10, but then gave the 3 oldest a reprieve to stay awake with the older the people while I went to bed, and had the 3 youngest with me. Of course they weren't happy, but they had a long day.
2/3 fell asleep immediately. 1 of them was holding out cause he said he wasn't tired, but he too fell after awhile.
So my brother is going to be watching them today. They better watch out...he is way more quick to anger and lashing out than I am. He is very much more harsh. But compared to my middle brother he is a piece of cake.
My middle brother woulda done beat the shit outta all of them just to teach them a quick a lesson on who's the boss. Smh.
So now I am awake and feel like taking on the world, and everyone else in my house is knocked out. Time for some tea cause I need my voice, and shower, and then I am out.
Enjoy your day people.
J-Bo
Thursday, July 4, 2013
Happy 4th of July!!
So I just wanted to give everyone a quick happy 4th!!!
This goes out to mostly my Americans and those who celebrate American Holidays.
I got 8 kids in my house from 6-13 and they are LOUD!!!!
I am giving them until 12:30 to get to bed so they are using up as much of that time as possible.
So I want to be in bed, but I have to wait till the time I said...I wanna be fair and honest.
Something funny happened earlier today. My brother and I were having a medical debate on instant kills. We were watching an action movie and someone got killed by being stabbed in the neck and it seemed to be an instant kill.
I said it can happen and my brother said it couldn't. He told me to call Van to get his opinion since he is the medical person in my life. That shocked me that he would say his name...he didn't seem to care very much about him.
It was very interesting.
It did make me wonder how he is doing, and what is going on with him. I wish him the best and he stays in my prayers.
So I need to get my stuff together...I am not going to be left in the dust and that means I need to work 1 million times harder than I am now. Harder and smarter....
Enjoy this great holiday...I know I will.
J-Bo
This goes out to mostly my Americans and those who celebrate American Holidays.
I got 8 kids in my house from 6-13 and they are LOUD!!!!
I am giving them until 12:30 to get to bed so they are using up as much of that time as possible.
So I want to be in bed, but I have to wait till the time I said...I wanna be fair and honest.
Something funny happened earlier today. My brother and I were having a medical debate on instant kills. We were watching an action movie and someone got killed by being stabbed in the neck and it seemed to be an instant kill.
I said it can happen and my brother said it couldn't. He told me to call Van to get his opinion since he is the medical person in my life. That shocked me that he would say his name...he didn't seem to care very much about him.
It was very interesting.
It did make me wonder how he is doing, and what is going on with him. I wish him the best and he stays in my prayers.
So I need to get my stuff together...I am not going to be left in the dust and that means I need to work 1 million times harder than I am now. Harder and smarter....
Enjoy this great holiday...I know I will.
J-Bo
Tuesday, July 2, 2013
Why God...Why Me?!?!?!
Why couldn't be like everyone else?
Why couldn't I just be like one of the regular folks?
Why couldn't I just settle and get a regular job and be?
I coulda been a teacher, scientist, doctor, politician, and just about anything else?
Why did I have to be all that I am? What am I suppose to accomplish? What am I going to do with this life?
The sad thing is the thought of living a regular life seems so abnormally boring to me.
I just have to keep doing and becoming more and better.
So tomorrow I am doing more for my businesses and I need to revitalize the website. I just need to get things together and become the very best that I can be.
God help me, cause I feel I am moving the planet and others just are walking up a hill. It would be easy to get a job and just make a good living and do what I do.
I cannot think about that. Just gotta do what I am meant to do.
More info later.
J-Bo
Why couldn't I just be like one of the regular folks?
Why couldn't I just settle and get a regular job and be?
I coulda been a teacher, scientist, doctor, politician, and just about anything else?
Why did I have to be all that I am? What am I suppose to accomplish? What am I going to do with this life?
The sad thing is the thought of living a regular life seems so abnormally boring to me.
I just have to keep doing and becoming more and better.
So tomorrow I am doing more for my businesses and I need to revitalize the website. I just need to get things together and become the very best that I can be.
God help me, cause I feel I am moving the planet and others just are walking up a hill. It would be easy to get a job and just make a good living and do what I do.
I cannot think about that. Just gotta do what I am meant to do.
More info later.
J-Bo
Monday, July 1, 2013
“Ex-Gay Isn’t Exactly Over”: Mel White writing for Advocate.com
Article from:
http://www.soulforce.org/blog/ex-gay-isnt-exactly-over-mel-white-writing-for-advocate-com/
In the past few days, many have celebrated the headline “Exodus International Closes Down.” And we should rightfully thank Alan Chambers for his confession that “ex-gay therapy” does not work and for his apology for the “pain and hurt” it has cost so many of us. I saw Alan issue his apology at the last Exodus conference. He was sincere and contrite. Even if you don’t trust Alan’s motives, you have to admit that his confession and apology are a giant step forward in undermining the credibility of those who continue to hold out the false promises made by the ex-gay movement.
On the other hand, we should not allow ourselves to believe that the ex-gay movement died with the closure of Exodus. Quite the contrary. Alan’s apology has motivated ex-gay loyalists to hunker down and commit to riding out the storm, reorganizing. and eventually reemerging with an even more militant dedication to their belief that that lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people can and must be “cured.”
The Exodus (ex-gay) faithful are now uniting under a new name, the Restored Hope Network, currently being organized by Anne Paulk. She admits proudly that this will be an ex-gay ministry. In her online testimony she describes the network’s “cure” for us in these words: “Jesus got hold of me and that was the end of my homosexuality.” Paulk is one of several ex-gays who participated in a national ad campaign and what was probably the highest moment of visibility for their movement, appearing on the cover of Newsweek with her (now openly gay) husband, John, in 1998.
The board of this old nightmare in new trappings includes the same laundry list of fundamentalist leaders whose names are associated with decades of biblical misuse, scientific ignorance, and harm to LGBT people: Matt Barber, Robert Gagnon, Joseph Nicolosi, Leanne Payne, Janet Parshall, Mat Staver, and 11 other megachurch pastors and right-wing organizers. The terrible suffering caused by Exodus and the failure of its ex-gay therapies flows directly and indirectly out of the false teachings of these fundamentalist Christian leaders.
These hard-core ex-gay promoters really believe that those who “give in” to their “temptations” will find “their lives ruined and their souls damned.” My worst fear is that the more than 250 ex-gay ministries located in the U.S. and 17 other countries that were once associated with Exodus will simply sign up with the Hope Restored Network instead of following Alan Chambers’s example.
Let’s not kid ourselves. These local ex-gay ministries know that their therapies do not work and that they personally are responsible for suffering and even death. One need only look at the suicide rates among LGBT youth rejected by their families, communities, and houses of worship to see the impact.
The real difference between Paulk’s Restored Hope Network and Chambers’s new Reduce Fear organization is their ultimate goal for LGBT people. The old word “cure” is out. “Change” is in.
Consider the Restored Hope Network as the hard-core “changers” who are committed to the failed methods of Exodus and Reduce Fear as the soft-core “changers” who practice “change lite.”
At the recent Exodus Freedom Conference, Chambers’s own testimony inadvertently described “change lite.” The first step for the soft-core “changers” is to admit that that they cannot “cure” you, that no matter how hard you try your feelings will still exist.
Chambers also admitted quite openly that he still “struggles” with his desires, and in deciding not to “act on those desires,” he describes the second step toward soft-core change. Alan and the other soft-core changers don’t describe same-sex attraction or sexuality as sin (that’s the hard-core way), but they do cling to the old notion that the only sexual relationships in keeping with God’s plan for are those between one man with one woman.
It’s very likely that Chambers’s Reduce Fear ministry will offer loving counsel to those who struggle against their sexual orientation. It is also likely that it will help churches organize small groups for dialogue (not unlike Alcoholics Anonymous’s group meetings) and publish new materials for soft-core change that emphasize mercy and not judgment.
But just beneath that loving, nonjudgmental surface there remains, whether spoken or not, the belief that change is still the ideal outcome. Which makes this all the more insidious and dangerous. Chambers’s change will not call for LGBT people to become heterosexual but for sexually active individuals to become self-accepting but celibate lesbian or gay persons.
For those who choose not to remain celibate or fail at celibacy, the group will hold up as an example Chambers’s loving relationship with his wife, Leslie. Soft-core changers will teach that sexually active lesbian or gay people should enter into “traditional” opposite-sex marriages or into a relationship with an opposite-sex fellow “struggler.” This sounds a lot like the apostle Paul’s unfortunate advice that “if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion” (I Cor. 7:9).
Here’s the problem. Alan Chambers and Anne Paulk are different only in degree. As long as change is involved in a ministry, it remains an ex-gay ministry. Hard-core change demands that our natural sexual orientation be cured or at least denied. Soft-core change asks gently and lovingly (although it does not demand) that we live unnatural lives by refusing to be the people we were created to be.
Alan and Leslie Chambers are obviously in love. It is perfectly appropriate for Alan to decide that being married to a heterosexual woman is worth holding his homosexuality in check. But it is not perfectly appropriate for him to set himself up as an example on which to build an entire ministry.
If his Reduce Fear ministry would say, “It’s OK to accept your homosexuality as a gift from God. It’s OK to be in a loving same-sex relationship. If that’s your decision, Reduce Fear will support you in every way,” then it could also say, “But if you decide to struggle against your orientation in order to stay in a loving relationship with a heterosexual spouse, we will support you in that decision as well.”
As long as Alan Chambers even implies that not accepting your sexual orientation is the better way, he has not ended his ex-gay ministry. He has just reorganized it as a kinder, gentler form of Exodus. I’m afraid that one day he will have to confess that his new kinder, gentler change methods didn’t work either and apologize again for the suffering and death he and his ministry have caused.
THE REVEREND DR. MEL WHITE is the cofounder of Soulforce, the recipient of the ACLU’S National Civil Liberties Award, and author of Stranger at the Gate: To Be Gay and Christian in America and Holy Terror: Lies the Christian Right Tells Us to Deny Gay Equality.
http://www.soulforce.org/blog/ex-gay-isnt-exactly-over-mel-white-writing-for-advocate-com/
In the past few days, many have celebrated the headline “Exodus International Closes Down.” And we should rightfully thank Alan Chambers for his confession that “ex-gay therapy” does not work and for his apology for the “pain and hurt” it has cost so many of us. I saw Alan issue his apology at the last Exodus conference. He was sincere and contrite. Even if you don’t trust Alan’s motives, you have to admit that his confession and apology are a giant step forward in undermining the credibility of those who continue to hold out the false promises made by the ex-gay movement.
On the other hand, we should not allow ourselves to believe that the ex-gay movement died with the closure of Exodus. Quite the contrary. Alan’s apology has motivated ex-gay loyalists to hunker down and commit to riding out the storm, reorganizing. and eventually reemerging with an even more militant dedication to their belief that that lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people can and must be “cured.”
The Exodus (ex-gay) faithful are now uniting under a new name, the Restored Hope Network, currently being organized by Anne Paulk. She admits proudly that this will be an ex-gay ministry. In her online testimony she describes the network’s “cure” for us in these words: “Jesus got hold of me and that was the end of my homosexuality.” Paulk is one of several ex-gays who participated in a national ad campaign and what was probably the highest moment of visibility for their movement, appearing on the cover of Newsweek with her (now openly gay) husband, John, in 1998.
The board of this old nightmare in new trappings includes the same laundry list of fundamentalist leaders whose names are associated with decades of biblical misuse, scientific ignorance, and harm to LGBT people: Matt Barber, Robert Gagnon, Joseph Nicolosi, Leanne Payne, Janet Parshall, Mat Staver, and 11 other megachurch pastors and right-wing organizers. The terrible suffering caused by Exodus and the failure of its ex-gay therapies flows directly and indirectly out of the false teachings of these fundamentalist Christian leaders.
These hard-core ex-gay promoters really believe that those who “give in” to their “temptations” will find “their lives ruined and their souls damned.” My worst fear is that the more than 250 ex-gay ministries located in the U.S. and 17 other countries that were once associated with Exodus will simply sign up with the Hope Restored Network instead of following Alan Chambers’s example.
Let’s not kid ourselves. These local ex-gay ministries know that their therapies do not work and that they personally are responsible for suffering and even death. One need only look at the suicide rates among LGBT youth rejected by their families, communities, and houses of worship to see the impact.
The real difference between Paulk’s Restored Hope Network and Chambers’s new Reduce Fear organization is their ultimate goal for LGBT people. The old word “cure” is out. “Change” is in.
Consider the Restored Hope Network as the hard-core “changers” who are committed to the failed methods of Exodus and Reduce Fear as the soft-core “changers” who practice “change lite.”
At the recent Exodus Freedom Conference, Chambers’s own testimony inadvertently described “change lite.” The first step for the soft-core “changers” is to admit that that they cannot “cure” you, that no matter how hard you try your feelings will still exist.
Chambers also admitted quite openly that he still “struggles” with his desires, and in deciding not to “act on those desires,” he describes the second step toward soft-core change. Alan and the other soft-core changers don’t describe same-sex attraction or sexuality as sin (that’s the hard-core way), but they do cling to the old notion that the only sexual relationships in keeping with God’s plan for are those between one man with one woman.
It’s very likely that Chambers’s Reduce Fear ministry will offer loving counsel to those who struggle against their sexual orientation. It is also likely that it will help churches organize small groups for dialogue (not unlike Alcoholics Anonymous’s group meetings) and publish new materials for soft-core change that emphasize mercy and not judgment.
But just beneath that loving, nonjudgmental surface there remains, whether spoken or not, the belief that change is still the ideal outcome. Which makes this all the more insidious and dangerous. Chambers’s change will not call for LGBT people to become heterosexual but for sexually active individuals to become self-accepting but celibate lesbian or gay persons.
For those who choose not to remain celibate or fail at celibacy, the group will hold up as an example Chambers’s loving relationship with his wife, Leslie. Soft-core changers will teach that sexually active lesbian or gay people should enter into “traditional” opposite-sex marriages or into a relationship with an opposite-sex fellow “struggler.” This sounds a lot like the apostle Paul’s unfortunate advice that “if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion” (I Cor. 7:9).
Here’s the problem. Alan Chambers and Anne Paulk are different only in degree. As long as change is involved in a ministry, it remains an ex-gay ministry. Hard-core change demands that our natural sexual orientation be cured or at least denied. Soft-core change asks gently and lovingly (although it does not demand) that we live unnatural lives by refusing to be the people we were created to be.
Alan and Leslie Chambers are obviously in love. It is perfectly appropriate for Alan to decide that being married to a heterosexual woman is worth holding his homosexuality in check. But it is not perfectly appropriate for him to set himself up as an example on which to build an entire ministry.
If his Reduce Fear ministry would say, “It’s OK to accept your homosexuality as a gift from God. It’s OK to be in a loving same-sex relationship. If that’s your decision, Reduce Fear will support you in every way,” then it could also say, “But if you decide to struggle against your orientation in order to stay in a loving relationship with a heterosexual spouse, we will support you in that decision as well.”
As long as Alan Chambers even implies that not accepting your sexual orientation is the better way, he has not ended his ex-gay ministry. He has just reorganized it as a kinder, gentler form of Exodus. I’m afraid that one day he will have to confess that his new kinder, gentler change methods didn’t work either and apologize again for the suffering and death he and his ministry have caused.
THE REVEREND DR. MEL WHITE is the cofounder of Soulforce, the recipient of the ACLU’S National Civil Liberties Award, and author of Stranger at the Gate: To Be Gay and Christian in America and Holy Terror: Lies the Christian Right Tells Us to Deny Gay Equality.
500 Business E-Mails
So I just got done answering 500 business e-mails that were sent within the last 2-1/2 months.
DAMN!!! :-/
It was so damn exhausting, but I got it down and I know look and 40 of them have responded and I have to responded to those e-mails now too.
I always wonder how people can have 5+ deals going at the same time and not feel overwhelmed. I gotta find out how to master that one real fast.
I have also learned 3 questions according to one of my mentors that he asked himself when he was in a fatal car crash. He almost lost his life and when he was on the crossroads he thought of 3 questions.
The 3 questions that he asked himself are:
It was the most transformational for me. I still love him and I respect and honor him for the role he played in my life, but I do that while moving forward and moving on. If our paths cross than we shall see who we are when that happens, but if not than that is ok too.
I look forward to loving again that strongly cause I never felt so good and vulnerable in my life. I CANNOT WAIT!!!! :-D
Sidenote: A friend of mine who works at Old Navy is now engaged to a very famous musician. The man she is marrying is very well known and he doesn't care that she isn't like other women in his life. She is on a different level, but they work. They compliment each other.
Back to my points.
This is one area that scares me, because I am not scared of dying...just of leaving too soon.
God help me with this one.
So this is where I am right now. This is where I am currently, but I am always evolving and growing and changing.
Now back to growing multiple businesses at once. What the hell is wrong with me?!?!??! But I wouldn't be me if I wasn't doing many things at once. I need that to help keep me interested.
J-Bo
P.S. Talked to my boys in San Fran and they are doing great. Things are happening. Still some issues, but that is true of any relationship and I've thought them the tools they can use to get better and do more.
P.P.S. Pastor and Tony are doing awesome. Just spoke to Tony. I think Pastor is at AIM Convention. Don't ask. But Pastor is making babies like crazy trying to continue his legacy, and they both are looking into Tony having some kids. I should say more kids, cause I didn't realize he has 3 kids with another woman. O_o Don't even ask cause I don't know. In any case they are still hiding their relationship of course and Pastor is getting good at hiding it. I just wish them the best cause I could not be about that life...I am not a liar and I am not ashamed. I've come too far!!!
DAMN!!! :-/
It was so damn exhausting, but I got it down and I know look and 40 of them have responded and I have to responded to those e-mails now too.
I always wonder how people can have 5+ deals going at the same time and not feel overwhelmed. I gotta find out how to master that one real fast.
I have also learned 3 questions according to one of my mentors that he asked himself when he was in a fatal car crash. He almost lost his life and when he was on the crossroads he thought of 3 questions.
The 3 questions that he asked himself are:
- Did I love?
- Did I live?
- Did I even matter?
- Did I love
It was the most transformational for me. I still love him and I respect and honor him for the role he played in my life, but I do that while moving forward and moving on. If our paths cross than we shall see who we are when that happens, but if not than that is ok too.
I look forward to loving again that strongly cause I never felt so good and vulnerable in my life. I CANNOT WAIT!!!! :-D
Sidenote: A friend of mine who works at Old Navy is now engaged to a very famous musician. The man she is marrying is very well known and he doesn't care that she isn't like other women in his life. She is on a different level, but they work. They compliment each other.
Back to my points.
- Did I live?
This is one area that scares me, because I am not scared of dying...just of leaving too soon.
- Did I even matter?
God help me with this one.
So this is where I am right now. This is where I am currently, but I am always evolving and growing and changing.
Now back to growing multiple businesses at once. What the hell is wrong with me?!?!??! But I wouldn't be me if I wasn't doing many things at once. I need that to help keep me interested.
J-Bo
P.S. Talked to my boys in San Fran and they are doing great. Things are happening. Still some issues, but that is true of any relationship and I've thought them the tools they can use to get better and do more.
P.P.S. Pastor and Tony are doing awesome. Just spoke to Tony. I think Pastor is at AIM Convention. Don't ask. But Pastor is making babies like crazy trying to continue his legacy, and they both are looking into Tony having some kids. I should say more kids, cause I didn't realize he has 3 kids with another woman. O_o Don't even ask cause I don't know. In any case they are still hiding their relationship of course and Pastor is getting good at hiding it. I just wish them the best cause I could not be about that life...I am not a liar and I am not ashamed. I've come too far!!!
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